Journey of Life
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    What is this I see, are those tears?

    You can’t cry and smile pick one or the other.

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    Gorgeously Detailed Illustrations Created Using Ballpoint Pens

    Created by Rebecca Yanovskaya

    Her tumblr

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    Ilustrations by the incredible Carol Rossetti check her out and follow her here! http://carolrossettidesign.tumblr.com/

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    WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
        
    1. Stay with us and keep calm.
      The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.

    2. Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.
      You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.

    3. Move us to a quiet place.
      We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.

    4. Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.
      We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.

    5. Speak to us in short, simple sentences.

    6. Be predictable. Avoid surprises.

    7. Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.
      As odd as it sounds, it works.
                                                                                                                     
    WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:

    1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”
    We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.

    Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.

    Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”


    2. Say, “Calm down.”
    This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.

    Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.

    Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.


    3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”
    Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.

    Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.


    4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”
    Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.

    The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.

    Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.


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  • "You can’t invest in others if you don’t invest in yourself."

    Self-Care Isn’t Selfish" by Tiffany Keesey 

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  • Silence of the PK’s

    Pk’s carry the unfortunate burden of poster child for every church member. We are forced to be perfect even though we are not. We are humans who struggle with our faith, we are humans who have felt betrayed, we are humans who question if God really hates us, and more important we are humans with real emotions. 

    I have realized that as a result of my father’s profession it has forced me to become something I never intended to be, a front. My mother always told me to be strong in the face of all the members and never reveal yourself to them because you can’t trust them. But I was challenged internally tonight at youth group; these two sisters shared their story of surviving sexual and physical abuse by their father; another woman shared how she used to cut herself because she was in an abusive relationship and felt suicide was her only out. All I kept hearing was portions of my story. Of course I was asked to give encouragement and maybe some insight and I imagined that I would say something like “I have gone through the same ordeal and I don’t know how to speak to your situations but here is how I am dealing with things…” but of course I had my perfect response of hope and comfort prepared. I just kept thinking in the back of my head what my mother has been telling me for years “just smile and tell them you will pray for them” 

    No one wants to hear that after sharing something so deep. But my response was automatic. I am filled with guilt for how I have kept this front of perfection to my friends and family at church. It broke my heart when my friend told me that I can’t relate to anyone because I have never experienced real pain. I wasn’t upset and I don’t blame her for thinking that. I would think the same about myself.

    I can’t help the automatic response and the immediate smile that comes when I know inside I am falling apart. I can’t help but say “I’m fine, everything is great, life is amazing, I am blessed, I feel joyful” when I am asked how I am doing. I was never taught to be honest about things like that. I feel like my world is falling before me and I am losing control of my perfect smile. Anxiety is swollen in my heart like an overfilled balloon and the only thing I have to show for is the perfect smile that I have been taught to show even when everything is not okay. So I will just keep smiling because I don’t know what other choice I have. 

  • "A person who is beginning to sense the suffering of life is, at the same time, beginning to awaken to deeper realities, truer realities. For suffering smashes to pieces the complacency of our normal ­fictions about reality, and forces us to come alive in a special sense—to see carefully, to feel deeply, to touch ourselves and our worlds in ways we have heretofore avoided."
    Ken Wilber, quoted in “The Thorn and the Rose,” compiled and edited by Anthony Williams. From ARCS in our new Spring Issue: “Suffering.” (via parabola-magazine)

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